As a mama who has survived trauma, I know firsthand how overwhelming and scary it can be to navigate motherhood while carrying the weight of our past experiences. When I first became a mother, I was terrified of repeating the cycle of trauma I had grown up in. I felt lost, alone, and unsure of how to break free from the patterns that had shaped my childhood.

But here's the thing: we are not doomed to repeat our past. We have the power to choose a different path, to heal, and to create a peaceful, loving environment for our children. Today, I want to share with you three powerful steps you can take right now to start breaking the cycle of trauma in your family.

1. Cultivate Awareness

The first step in breaking the cycle of trauma is becoming aware of our triggers, emotions, and bodily sensations. This might sound simple, but it's incredibly powerful. We can't change what we're not aware of, right?

Start by paying attention to how you feel throughout the day. Notice when you get triggered and what situations cause you to react strongly. Observe how these emotions manifest in your body. Do you feel tightness in your chest? A knot in your stomach?

Remember, as trauma survivors, we've often been conditioned to ignore our body's signals. But your body holds wisdom, and learning to listen to it is a crucial part of healing.

2. Make the Choice to Heal

The second step is making a conscious decision to heal. This might seem obvious, but it's a deeply personal and sometimes challenging choice. For me, the fear of repeating the cycle with my own children was a powerful motivator. I knew I wanted to do better for them, even though I wasn't sure exactly how.

Making this choice doesn't mean you have to have all the answers right away. It simply means you're committing to your healing journey, wherever it may lead you. It's okay if it feels scary or uncertain - that's completely normal.

Remember: Choosing to heal is an act of courage and love, both for yourself and for your children.

3. Approach Your Journey with Curiosity, Not Judgment

This third step was a game-changer for me. Instead of harshly judging myself for my reactions or mistakes, I learned to approach them with curiosity. When I found myself triggered or responding in ways I wasn't proud of, I started asking questions like:

• Why did this situation affect me so strongly?

• What emotions am I feeling right now?

• How could I respond differently next time?

This shift from judgment to curiosity creates space for growth and learning. It allows us to explore our reactions without shame, which is essential for healing.

Bonus Step: Let Go of the Blame Game

Here's an extra step that I've found incredibly helpful: stop blaming yourself for your trauma and your triggers. Your trauma is not your fault. Your triggers are not your fault. However, your recovery and how you handle things moving forward is your choice.

This doesn't mean you have to have it all figured out right away. Healing is a journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. What matters is that you're making the choice to move forward.

You're Not Alone on This Journey

Breaking the cycle of trauma can feel overwhelming, but please remember: you're not alone. There are resources and support available to help you on this journey. Whether it's through therapy, support groups, or programs specifically designed for trauma-surviving mamas, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

If you're feeling called to take the next step in your healing journey, I invite you to explore the Cycle Breaker Blueprint. This program is designed to provide you with the tools and support you need to navigate triggers, build deeper connections with your children, and create the peaceful motherhood you deserve.

Learn More about the Cycle Breaker Blueprint Here

Remember, mama, you have the power to change your story. You can break the cycle and create a new legacy of love and healing for your family. It won't always be easy, but it will always be worth it. You've got this, and I'm cheering you on every step of the way.